Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullah,
Yesterday I have attended an Islamic event called Insight Southampton- where is the love? by Wardina Safiyyah, Sheikh Marwazi and Maryam Cerrah.
Alhamdulillah hamdan kathiran to Allah Subhanahu Wata'ala for chosing me to be one of the lucky ones to be there because IT WAS AMAZING!
There was this one part of the session where sister Wardina mentioned that one of the ways to achieve a harmony happy family is by knowing how important a role of a father can be to his daughters. It has been proven that compliments and words of encouragement the male parent to his daughters can increase their self-esteem and confidence. In other words, the female youngsters who have good relationships with their fathers won't feel the need to seek the love and appreciation from other males to make them feel special (i.e. the boyfriends!), which is forbidden and haraam in Islam, by the way. With this, I would like to share with you my story.
Alhamdulillah, all praises to Allah for giving me my loving parents. They are, with no doubts, one of the greatest ni'mah Allah has generously given to us. Every single day my father would tell each and everyone of us how much he loved us. You know, he was an engineer in a big Oil and Gas Company. So basically, his work required him to be on the sea for a week and have holidays the following week, so he would be gone for two weeks alternatively in a month. And for the whole time he was at his work, every single day he would call us and talk to each of us, never tired of giving advices and reminded us to take care of our mother even when we were less than 10 years of age. And at the end of our conversations, he would always say these words,
Ayah: "I love you."
His babies: "I love you too yah."
Ayah: "Kiss ayah dulu." (Give daddy a kiss)
His babies: "Mwah!"
and this continued even when we were teenagers until his last breath.
Sister Wardina also mentioned this beautiful quote, 'the best thing that a father can do to his children is to love their mother.' Subhanallah how entirely true this statement is! We had this family event once upon a time, it was a family gathering and the food was potluck. So my Ummi (mother), being the best cook in the world, in my world, made....something.. I can't remember teehee. And so the mothers were complimenting of how delicious my mother's cooking was. My father, hearing this, turned to us siblings and smiled, then he said,
Ayah: "Who is that woman they're talking about, who is an amazing cook, beautiful and a pious wife?"
With a wide smile craved on his face, he continued,
Ayah: "That is your mother, my beloved children."
If we looked back to the life of our beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW and the way he treated his wives and daughters, it was magnificent! He treated them nothing but with kindness, love and respect. Subhanallah!
[33:22] Verily you have in the Prophet of Allah an excellent model, for him who fears Allah and the Last Day and who remembers Allah much.
I have a lot more things to share, my brothers and sisters, and with His will, I shall continue when I have the chance but until then,
take care of your heart,
take care of your faith,
take care of your Salah,
and Allah will take care of you.
Assalamu'alaikum :)
